Good Friday to You,
The pictures above are of our children when they were one-year-olds. Trinae came into our home at 8 months. Keyan at 5 months. Though they were then our foster kids, all of our children turned one in our home. Don’t let appearances fool you, they are each unique!
When we first became parents, I thought I understood Proverbs 22:6. It seemed like a simple challenge and promise. Consistently train your children in the same way and you can be confident that they will stay on that path. A few children later, I discovered that I was missing a foundational tenet of the verse.
“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.”
I was thinking…
“Train up children in the way they should go; even when they are old they will not depart from it.”
Each time the verse indicates a specific child, but I was shoving all five of my children into one bucket. I was committing the mistake of “one size fits all.” I allowed myself to do that because I DO have a single goal for my children. I am working to position them to fully experience the life God planned, Jesus secured, and the Spirit empowers for them.
There is one goal. There are consistent standards in our home. But there are five unique children in our home. Take Layton, for example.
“I’m sorry, I’m sorry, I’m sorry.”
From the time he could talk, that was Layton’s “go-to” line. The moment he got caught, his confession was immediate and impassioned. Usually, he repeated the “I’m sorry” three times. Though now nearly 14 years ago, I still remember our friend Cathy saying to Carol Ann, “I could never discipline him, he is so cute when he says that.”
He was cute…really cute when he said it. The problem was that his apology was way too quick, said far too often, and lacking in sincerity.
He was not truly sorry for what he did… he was really only sorry he got caught!
This weekend, we’re going to talk about the grief the Holy Spirit brings in the life of Christ-followers. He is quite willing to bring conviction upon you… even cause you to have that “yucky” feeling inside.
However, the goal is not to shame you for what you did (We’ll talk more about that this weekend.). Only when you understand the real goal will you be positioned to rightly respond and discern when that same feeling is NOT from God.
YES… you can feel guilty for something you have done and it NOT be from God. Your head and your Enemy will create the same emotion, taking you down a very different path.
This weekend, we’re going to contrast the beautiful result of godly grief and the tragic result of worldly grief. Though they initially feel the same, the destinations are exactly opposite. Knowing the difference is essential! You can get a head start by reading 2 Corinthians 7:5-11. Notice the drastically different destination of the two griefs.
Hope you join us!