“I don’t want to talk about it.”

Good Friday to You,

The blow landed. Her son hit his son. From her perspective, it was simply boys being boys. He, on the other hand, saw violence and negligent parenting. The setting of the brawl: Nana’s house. Easter 2003.

Clearly, it was no Mayweather v. McGregor fight.

The perpetrator was our three year old son. The victim, his 2-year-old cousin. Somehow, I didn’t see the incident, but I can assure you the blow in question was no knockout punch. Our son had carried a pool noodle away from its natural habitat and into the kitchen. He proceeded to swing it around with all of his boundless toddler excitement and energy. Unfortunately, the size of the kitchen meant there was nowhere to hide from the path of the swinging noodle.

My brother-in-law jumped in to protect his son and then promptly correct ours. His reaction seemed a bit inappropriate to Mama Carol Ann. A tense conversation ensued in another room between them. Emotions ran high. The conversation didn’t go very well. It’s amazing how quickly a situation can get really tense when parents are protecting their children.

In the aftermath of Noodlegate, the event became a sort of elephant in the room that NO ONE in our family wanted to talk about. I think we’ve all been there!

We think to ourselves…

It won’t help to talk about it.
I’m so upset, if I talk I’ll say something I will regret.
We’ve tried this before.
Let’s just forget it and put it behind us.
I really don’t care what they have to say about it.
I wish they would just get over it.

This week, we’re going to have an elephant in the room conversation. I really don’t want to talk about it… and when I do, people don’t want me to talk about it. Ironically, this topic should be at the very top of our list as Christ-followers. We should long to hear what Jesus said about it. And, as personal as it feels, we should actually be discussing it… with each other.

Our family did recover. Our bond was not destroyed by the fateful swing of a foam tube. It was not the noodle that broke the camel’s back. Relationships returned to normal… and are now even better. Those first conversations were not fun… at all. But they were necessary. And they were worth it.

Maybe our conversation this weekend will first make us feel uncomfortable. I will be wondering what you are thinking. You might be wondering what I’m thinking. But, we won’t have to wonder what Jesus is thinking. He makes it really clear. And we both know that what He wants for us is best for us. You can take a peek at the elephant by reading Matthew 16:24-27. A short passage, with a powerful punch.

 

Hope you [still] join us this weekend,

 

Pastor Michael